Woman Insisting Relationship With ‘Non-Organic’ Brother Is Completely Regular Confuses Web

Your complete story was introduced a technique — with the girl at first insisting they weren’t “Folgers siblings” (included under is the OG industrial for reference) — however then started so as to add particulars that did not appear so as to add up for a lot of a Redditor.

Whereas unattainable to confirm, because it was posted to an nameless discussion board, the twists and turns of the narrative definitely had the web on the sting of their collective seats.

Learn on to see the entire drama play out for your self.

Now that we have that reference out of the best way…learn on for the whole authentic submit under.

“My (26f) ‘half brother’ ‘M’ and I are usually not biologically associated. I discovered this out at age 16, however nothing in our household’s dynamic modified and it’s not one thing we actually talk about,” the submit started innocuously sufficient.

“My boyfriend ‘Dan’ (collectively 1 yr) discovered this out over Christmas (we visited my household) and has since been actually bizarre about it,” she defined.

“He says that in the beginning he’s mad I by no means instructed him. I don’t see why it might matter, however he says it’s one thing you’d usually share with a associate after being collectively so long as we’ve and he didn’t suppose we had secrets and techniques. I don’t suppose this can be a secret and even an omission, it’s not some darkish household historical past that you just get instructed as soon as you’re taking an oath, it’s an ancillary bit of information that’s both related or not. Nobody treats M any in a different way now that we all know (and my dad all the time knew and didn’t care), so why would I’m going round promoting it?”

“Dan says he appears to be like at my relationship with M completely in a different way now,” she continued. “He says he feels a bit bizarre about how he’s noticed us behaving now that he is aware of we’re not even associated (we’re NOT Folger’s siblings so [I don’t even know] what he’s speaking about). He says there’s part of him that’s questioning if I didn’t inform him in order that it might make our ‘lack of boundaries’ much less of a crimson flag.”

“Dan will not be a jealous or controlling individual [in] the slightest, so this has me fairly shocked. He appears actually harm and frightened about it and I’m questioning if this can be a massive deal and I’m simply [desensitized] as a result of it’s my very own scenario?” she contemplated. “My mom has warned me about being shut with M being a crimson flag to guys so I’m now second guessing if it actually does look from the skin like I used to be hiding it?”

“The response is so out of character for Dan I’m actually beginning to really feel like I tousled however on the similar time, I additionally don’t get why it’s a giant deal that we don’t share blood?” she concluded within the preliminary submit.

Nevertheless, quickly got here two edits with extra info:

“Edit as a result of I noticed just a few individuals asking about what my mom mentioned,” she added. “She’s a bit conservative so I believe she’s overreacting however this complete factor simply jogged my memory. She talked about it at a time when M and I have been dwelling collectively, and she or he mentioned males is likely to be uncomfortable as a result of we’re roommates, and M is protecting of me. We even have matching tattoos, which my mom says is bizarre (however she additionally simply hates that I’ve a tattoo so I don’t take that too severely) and that he gave me a Cartier love bracelet that I put on on a regular basis. Additionally he apparently has a behavior of touching my neck that she finds bizarre (I say ‘apparently’ as a result of sure he does this generally to steer me in a crowded room or a sign if we’re in social conditions the identical manner you’d nudge somebody below the desk to get their consideration, however I don’t take into account it a ‘behavior’).”

“Edit 2 – when Dan mentioned ‘lack of boundaries’ he simply means I inform M a number of issues and ask for his recommendation quite a bit. He does the identical with me. It’s not associated to something bodily.”

“For anybody asking how we have been meant to be associated – My dad introduced M because the son from his brief lived marriage to his ex (M is 9 years older than me), so we thought we have been half siblings,” she defined. “Seems his mom and my father had separated by the point he was conceived however my dad went together with M being his ‘son’ as a result of he needed a toddler.”

As one may think, the submit obtained loads of quizzical remarks — albeit amid fairly just a few commenters declaring OP (authentic poster) was NOT within the incorrect and was actually NTA (not the asshole).

Nevertheless, as one tends to do on the web, OP responded largely to the incredulous feedback.

“Do you get misplaced alot? How typically is he ‘directing you locations’ that your mother took discover?” requested one curious Redditor.

“Haha no. It’s simply if we arrive at a restaurant or one thing and we’re going to the desk he simply directs me. Or if we’re in a retailer and I’m wandering off he’ll jokingly be like ‘no we’re right here for xyz it’s this fashion’ and steer me round,” she defined. “And if we’re sitting someplace in a bunch and he needs to go away or somebody says one thing wild he’ll squeeze my neck. Identical manner you’d make eye contact together with your buddy and provides one another a glance if somebody mentioned one thing humorous.”

“You are the youthful, and by an enormous margin,” one other involved commenter famous. “It is all normalized for you as a result of you do not know higher. Bolted on love bracelet, steering you… I believe if pressed he would know that this is not regular.”

“Break up custody whereas he was rising up? After which out of the home at 19-20, earlier than you reached adolescence, I am guessing? After which level I am guessing he possibly did not see you that always for numerous years? (simply spit balling…) You became a lady largely out of his sight?” they continued. “You grew up utterly individually, by no means dwelling collectively till you moved in with him in your late teenagers? Lol. He ‘is aware of’ you are his ‘sibling’… However he would not see you or deal with you as one. Clearly.”

OP gave a prolonged response: “First, I’ve a couple of love bracelet. I’ve one from him, one from my mom, and one I purchased myself. I simply don’t put on the opposite two fairly often, I select to maintain the one he gave me on. It’s not some 50sog collar state of affairs. I imply, I actually don’t suppose the steering is that bizarre. It’s like him placing his arm round my shoulders. However okay I can see why some individuals suppose that’s odd…sort of? If you happen to squint.”

“He visited on some weekends and college holidays from when he was 12. I moved in with him once I was 18 so it’s not like he didn’t see me for years,” she wrote. “Regardless, my dad is his dad. We don’t share DNA so it’s not unlawful however it might nonetheless be…wayyyy too Freudian. I’m fairly positive individuals don’t simply get drawn to their siblings, simply because they discover out they legally can.”

When one other individual in the identical thread requested “Whose concept was it to maneuver in with him?” she replied that it was her concept.

Then she reacted to another person asking in regards to the neck grabbing, explaining: “I can see why individuals suppose that in regards to the neck factor. I believe it’s as a result of it’s how animals maintain their younger possibly? Additionally you’ll be able to’t actually transfer out of that if somebody is holding you by the neck. However it doesn’t hassle me. It’s like him placing an arm round my shoulder to me.”

When one other individual within the thread expressed that the again of the neck is usually thought of an erogenous zone, OP mentioned: “I get it, but additionally, I don’t discover it a ‘attractive’ place to be touched in any respect[.] I received’t lie I might get a bit squeamish if somebody held my neck as a sexual factor.”

Then got here the revelation that her “brother” did not cost her lease when she moved in: “Most individuals dwell with their siblings in some unspecified time in the future haha I simply didn’t need to pay lease.”

After a little bit of backwards and forwards about whether or not or not the bracelet she acquired from “M” was the “completely” screwed on kind, she lastly admitted: “Properly not completely, I’ve the screwdriver, and I take it off often. However sure more often than not I put on it, until there’s a particular purpose I can’t.”

When another person famous that the neck steering in public and the screwed on bracelet have been all giving BDSM vibes, OP replied: “okay that’s FRIGHTENING[,] to not kink disgrace however…completely not for me. I imply, that’s positively…one thing to leap to, even when we weren’t household. These bracelets are quite common.”

Elsewhere she clarified just a few issues about her present dwelling scenario: “I don’t dwell with him anymore. I moved out once I was 22. My mom mentioned this again once I lived with him, she hasn’t mentioned this in relation to Dan, nor does she personally suppose there’s something bizarre happening. She mentioned it is likely to be off placing to others. So a lot of my pals have been given the identical bracelet [by] their mother and father. It’s not a ‘romantic’ factor until you need it to be.”

What do you suppose?