Parenting a Teenager As an Expat within the Center East Was Troublesome

However youngsters can be youngsters.

It is of their nature to push the boundaries of what is doable and allowed — be it by mother and father or the legislation.

A world upbringing

We moved to the Center East when our daughter Christina was 4 years outdated. We began in Doha, Qatar, then Muscat, Oman, and at last settled in Dubai, UAE. It was a charmed life, stuffed with sunshine, day by day pool classes, a protected upbringing, and, as a part of a world expat group, mates from throughout the globe.

She realized about many cultural variations, religions, and international traditions, all of which, I’m happy to report, turned her into the open-minded younger lady she is at present.

However as with all expat life, you must take the nice with the considerably difficult. Particularly in Dubai, the place we spent most of her teenage years. There, life was removed from regular.

Day by day life, however not as we all know it

Dubai is understood for its bling, its extravagance, and its riches. And must also be identified for its totally spoiled expat brats. Youngsters allowance is commonly the dimensions of different folks’s wage again house. There, it’s normal for households to have drivers and maids. Weekend brunches in five-star motels with free-flowing champagne are additionally attended frequently. It isn’t the youngsters’ fault after they develop up pondering this kind of life is regular.

My husband and I indulged as nicely, this was, in spite of everything, why we moved overseas within the first place: Tax-free pay and a greater life-style. However as Christina grew up, we turned extra conscious that when she headed off to school, away from the Center East, she would come right down to earth with an infinite bump and few helpful life abilities.

With little viable native transport and a local weather that made strolling inconceivable for a number of months of the yr, my daughter had by no means even taken a bus by herself. As a substitute, she was used to being introduced again by automobile to our home after a sleepover at a pal’s home. The mom would park her personalised Rolls Royce with its Burberry seat covers subsequent to my dusty little Jeep. One other pal lived on the man-made Palm Island along with her personal personal seashore, whereas yet one more frequently loved weekends away within the household’s personal jet.

Actuality verify Down Below

After six years we determined that Dubai had too many potential, and life-changing penalties for elevating an adolescent. We packed up and moved to Australia, to be able to enable our daughter a pattern of “regular life” as an adolescent.

The traditional life we envisioned included taking the tramway to high school, and realizing that not each household can spend the equal of the GDP of a small nation each weekend.

She hated us for taking her away from her mates, from the one life she had identified, and would merely not respect that it was for her personal good. However that is regular teenage conduct too.

It wasn’t simple, however we weathered the storm, Dubai mates came visiting, we met koalas and kangaroos, she partied with out penalties, acquired her learner driver’s license, and completed highschool in Melbourne, earlier than heading to school within the UK. She even forgave us for the transfer. Finally.

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